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Interactions with Others

"Just because we may not pay mundane interactions much attention, however, doesn't mean that researchers ignore them.  In fact, it is one of the operating principles of social psychology that even the most minute encounters can have large effects on our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

"In that spirit, researchers have explored many of our everyday activities--and found empirical evidence that they can be performed better.  We can greatly reduce our stress and get more of what we see by applying a cornucopia of information from recent studies that bear directly on the small problems and challenges of our daily lives.

"If there is a unifying these to the findings, it is that the most successful encounters accommodate, even anticipate, the respondent's point of view.  That is, if we want something only another person can give--friendship, acceptance, forgiveness--we need to factor the other person's mindset into our requests and behavior." - Mary Loftus in March/April 2013 Psychology Today

Out smallest interactions with others can change our moods and other around us. 

Renee Madison, MA, LPC, CSAT is a counselor in Colorado.  She can be reached for appointments at 303-257-7623 or 970-324-6928.

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