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"As sex and relationship therapists, we know that pornography use is a relationship issue.  Porn affects the user's inner life (the relationship he has with himself), as well as the interactions he has with his partner and other family members.  Regular porn use often interferes with a person's ability to maintain good self-esteem and experience manually fulfilling sexual intimacy with a partner.  Dealing with pornography is not solely about stopping a behavior or overcoming an addiction.  It also involves reclaiming a sense of personal integrity and manifesting attitudes and behaviors that promote healthy sexual intimacy.  Nothing we found in our research discussed pornography use and its repercussions with this type of emphasis." - Wendy Maltz, LCSW, DST and Larry Maltz, LCSW in The Porn Trap Sexual addiction is an intimacy disorder, not about sex but about an emotional issue.  Regular porn use lowers the ability to feel good about themsel...

"Are you aware of what things you can say or do that have the power to relieve distress and uplift your partner?  Take a minute and think about these now. "1. You may find it helpful to begin with the list of vulnerabilities" of your partner. "For each of the three or four things that make your partner feel bad, you probably can identify something that will mollify the bad feeling.... "2. Check the list you come up with against the antidotes.... "3. You may also want to create a list of the things your partner can (and does) do that please and uplift you.   If you are doing this exercise together, you can create separate lists for each other and then compare notes." - Stan Tatkin, Psy.D. in Wired for Love As we learn to uplift those that we love our relationships get more emotional intimate.  It is important to share what we need too to get relief from distress.  Your partner may not know what you need and it is perfectly legitima...