Psychology Help Today

"It is important for you to know your own vulnerabilities, and it is even more important to know your partner's.  Knowing your partner's three or four bad things takes the guesswork out of what distresses him or her.  Not knowing these three or four things can weaken the relationship and make it a dangerous place for both of you.  "... 1. Sit down and think about the issues that deeply affect your partner.  You probably didn't know him or her during childhood, but what has your partner shared with you about that phase of life? "2. Recall specific incidents in your relationship during which you partner became distressed.  In each case, what was the issue that made him or her feel vulnerable. "3. Jot down all the incidents and issues come to mind.  Don't censor yourself. "4. When you've completed your list, go back over it and look for commonalities.  See if you can narrow the list down to three or four main areas of vulne...