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"'It's hard when your friend has a sleepover with someone else.  I'm guessing you feel left out.' "'Of course you're scared about going to a new school.  Anyone would be nervous.' "'I used to feel jealous of my sister too.' "'I know that you really love that outfit.  In my opinion the colors don't go together well.' "'Your friends are upset because you're not passing the ball to them when they have open shots.  I know because the coach told me they have complained about that.' "'When you scream like that, I have trouble listening to you and don't want to do what you are asking.  I know you are upset, and if you could tell me in a lower voice, I could listen and possibly help.'" - Karyn D. Hall, PhD and Melissa H. Cook, LPC in The Power of Validation Validating statements are caring.  Caring for the emotions of other. Renee Madison, MA, LPC, CSAT is a counselor ...

“When I see partners in a successfully maintained couple bubble, one standout feature is their ability to care for, influence, and manage one another, much the way expert parents do with their children.  Both partners seem to have read and carefully studied the owner’s manual for their relationship and for each other.  Each is familiar with operational details that no one outside of the bubble is likely to know. “For instance, these partners know what has the most power to push the other’s buttons.  When the other is feeling bad, they immediately sense why.  Not only that, they know how to remedy the situation.  They know the right words to say, or deeds to perform, that have the power to elevate, relieve, excite, sooth, or heal each other.  From a neuroscience perspective, these partners possess strong orbitofrontal cortices; well balanced left and right brains; well-developed smart vagal sytems; well-regulated breath and vocal control; and ho...