Psychology Help Today

"Are you aware of what things you can say or do that have the power to relieve distress and uplift your partner?  Take a minute and think about these now. "1. You may find it helpful to begin with the list of vulnerabilities" of your partner. "For each of the three or four things that make your partner feel bad, you probably can identify something that will mollify the bad feeling.... "2. Check the list you come up with against the antidotes.... "3. You may also want to create a list of the things your partner can (and does) do that please and uplift you.   If you are doing this exercise together, you can create separate lists for each other and then compare notes." - Stan Tatkin, Psy.D. in Wired for Love As we learn to uplift those that we love our relationships get more emotional intimate.  It is important to share what we need too to get relief from distress.  Your partner may not know what you need and it is perfectly legitima...

"The role of a primary partner is a big one:  it entails taking good care of another human pain in the rear.  And the only way for this to work is for it to be fully mutual.  Both partners need to become experts on one another.  With this kind of arrangement, nobody really loses and everybody truly wins.  You can think of it as a kind of pay-to-play version of romance, and it is, make not mistake, an investment in your future." - Stan Tatkin, Psy.D. in Wired for Love Understanding your partner is necessary for good romantic relationship.  Relationship should not just be "consensual," a political correct term, but really the relationship needs to be taking care of one another's heartaches, fears and pains.  We need to know how to take care of our partner in their hard times not just in the good and visa versa, they need to the same for us.  Renee Madison, MA, LPC, CSAT is a counselor in Colorado.  She can be reached for appoint...